I write this title only because I came across a guest post written on one of my favourite websites/blogs by a writer who’d decided to vacate into her own rectum. Her blurb wrote something along the lines of, “Alongside blogging I am a published writer, I am not just a blogger.” I took abit of an offence to that, she may as well have written, “Oh bless you all with your little blogs, but I do this sh*t properly!” To me her statement told me more about herself and her own insecurities than her entire article ever would. I’ve seen other bloggers write similar condescending statements too such as, “I’m a professional blogger and I take what I do seriously.” No kidding love, you take yourself so seriously that I’m now bored and I’m currently leaving your website, bye!
But this all got me thinking, what constitutes anyone nowadays, with the freedom of the world wide web, to say someone can’t be anything other than what they choose to be, and since when did the “Blogging Police” become so PC as to establish what grounds grant you an authentic and legitimate blogger?
The Blogging “Rules”
Since entering the blogosphere just over a year ago I’ve slowly come to learn the do’s and don’ts of the blogging world if you want to get ahead, get noticed and be taken “seriously.” There are now, apparently, blogging rules every blogger must abide by in order to increase popularity and credibility, and if any said blogger hasn’t accomplished certain things or attained a certain status by thus amount of time thou shall not be aloud to call themselves an authentic or “real” blogger. It all seems abit much right? At the end of the day, we all write down words that appear on the internet that everybodies free to read, so really, apart from afew grammatical errors and the odd paycheck, how are we all any different? I’m not trying to down play anyones accomplishments here, on the contrary, if you’re lucky enough to blog or write for a living, great! If I wrote an article for the Times and had a debut novel due out, you can be sure I’d be letting everyone from here to Yemen know, but perhaps certain bloggers should realise there’s really no need to vilify the people who are just trying to have fun and express who they are.
Imagine if an established singer turned around to an up and coming vocalist and said, “Yeah, you may be able to sing, but I’ve filled stadiums, I’ve sold albums, you’re not a real singer!” We’d all look upon this person with disbelief and disgust, yet where writing and blogging are concerns their seems to be a sort of hierarchy and I find it all quite amusing. The internet has given us all the blessing of having our own voice, so even if not a single person were to click onto your website or blog, you’ve still been granted the freedom and the platform to write down your own opinions, show the world your passions and write the word F**K multiple times if you want to.
I personally love having this little space of mine on the internet, my blogposts subject matters may be a tad random, but they’re still mine and not re- edited within an inch of their life so they sound nothing like me. I write how I speak so if I write something along the lines of, “Oh My God. Holy Sh*t. You need to make these cookies!” My friends will tell you that if I were saying this sat next to you I’d be staring you dead in the eyes, waving my arms in the air frantically and basically looking alittle crazy, but most of all I’d be saying it with passion,which where food is concerned, I try to get across in my posts. Everyone has their own unique style of blogging and I think it’s high time we embraced and excepted them all instead of all trying to conform to a “standard” procedure that deems your blog worthy of greatness. I personally love finding new blogs, reading the posts and hearing the authors own unique voice throughout. I honestly couldn’t give a rats bum about how many comments a blogger has on their post, or how many followers someone has, for me, it’s all about being able to relate to that person and genuinely being interested in what they have to say. In some ways thats why I think the best blogs are the anonymous ones simply because the author isn’t trying to impress anyone, they’re simply using the internet as an outlet to express all their inner most feelings and that, in itself, is pretty beautiful in my eyes.
Another concept the blogging world has introduced me to is discussion forums, they confuse the hell out of me. A blogging friend told me about the popular forum, “Get off my internet” which apparently discusses topics surrounding other blogs. Basically this is a website solely based on slagging off the protagonist of a particular blog with statements such as, “Oh my God why does she post so many pictures, I can’t stand her, she can’t even spell right, idiot!” or “I bet you any money her Prada bags not real! This bitch is so fake!” I was shocked, can’t the members of these types of forums see that these sites are just breeding grounds for negativity? Think about it, you’re all a member of an online gang that slag off other people. I can guarantee the people who write comments such as, “She’s not even that pretty, infact she’s pig ugly!” These are the types of people who are unhappy with one or often multiple areas of their own lives and probably still click onto their rivals blogposts daily; which inevitably is just perpetuating their whole negative existance, and also improving their rivals viewing statistics! Happy people don’t invest their energy into belittling others to feel better about themselves, they have’nt got the time, and in all honestly they couldn’t give a flying f*ck because they’re too busy loving life. Insecure people on the other hand, oooh they’ve got all the time in the world.
If a blogger wants to post forty-five pictures of themselves into one post, so what, who cares, it’s their blog, and if it offends you so, then thats simple, either close your eyes or don’t. click. onto. their. website. It baffles me how people continue to pay attention to things that annoy the shit out of them? Whats more, they take the time to set up an account, log in and post just how much a certain blog/person annoys them, and this benefits them how? Oh wait yep, thats right, it doesn’t.
So if you’re the type of person that writes negative comments regarding someone else on discussion boards or websites, or you try to voice the “correct” procedure to blog, maybe take a step back and look at your own life and see if there’s any areas that could possibly welcome a change. Oh, and if you’re thinking, it’s not just me who thinks this way, loads of people agree with me, remember, negativity loves company and what you give out in the world is what you will always attract back to yourself.
If you’re curious or new to the whole discussion board saga take a look at this article written by Morgan Shanabah from 818.com, here she talks about this very matter. Then, see the first comment below which a pro GOMI member posted.
Yep. Now I don’t know about you, but to me, the above commenter either needs to take a valium or get laid, twice.
Promoting your brand
Lastly, if you’re a blogger I’m sure everyone has told you, you need to promote your brand! For anyone who follows this blog I’m sure it’s quite clear for you all to see I don’t promote my blog enough, which I know is a bad thing and I bloody need to start doing so! If I’m really honest, I think I’m just too lazy to, buuuuut, if I’m really, really honest it makes me cringe when I see bloggers retweeting, then retweeting, and then retweeting again that they have a new blogpost up. I mean I get it, everyone, me included, wants their blog to be seen, so three or four times a day retweets for a new post of course, but is it really neccesary to retweet it every half an hour? Argghhh don’t hate me for writing this, if thats you then I’m sorry and please don’t take it personally. It doesn’t mean I dislike you or your blog it’s just like I said, maybe I’m just alittle lazy?
When I come across some blogs now I can almost feel the pressure they’re putting on themselves to make sure their blog gets seen. On top of that there seems to be so many affiliate websites and blogs every blogger must join nowadays in order to gain maximum exposure that I think if you focus too much on building an audience sometimes you can lose valuble content in the process. Now we’ve all seen you can actually make a living out of blogging, and in some cases even be propelled into an online celebrity sensation; which could then open doors into the world of presenting and modelling, because of all this, the mounting pressure to succeed seems to take over what blogging is truly about. I follow so many blogs within fashion, lifestyle, well-being, food and decor and my favourites, and probably the ones most likely to succeed in the long run, are the ones who seem to look like they’re genuingly having fun and loving what they do. It’s like anything in life really, if you love what you do then success usually follows.
So, all in all, whether you blog for a living, or just for yourself, or perhaps you’ve been blogging secretly for months and your’re still deliberating on the right time to showcase yourself to the world. Whatever the reason, you should cherish your little space on the internet, you’re putting a large chunk of yourself on display for the world to see, no matter the judgement, and that in itself is pretty fearless. So really who cares about a condescending “professional opinion” or a patronizing suggestion from the “Blogging police” no-one should be able to disdain you or your voice, no matter what certain heirarchys will tell you. Your blog was authentic from the day you typed your firsts words and published them onto the internet simply becaue it’s yours and there will only ever be one you.
Happy Monday guys!